Let’s be real—texting your ex can feel like emotional dodgeball. One minute you’re exchanging drop-off times, the next you’re defending a sarcastic emoji in front of a judge. Family court doesn’t care about your feelings—it cares about receipts. And every message you send could become Exhibit A.
Here’s what not to do if you like parenting time, clean court records, and not looking unhinged:
1. Don’t vent by text. Ever.
“Congratulations on ruining our child’s birthday AGAIN.” Feels good for 10 seconds. Looks like harassment in court.
2. Don’t threaten. Even if you think it’s a joke.
“If you keep pulling this, I’ll make sure the judge hears everything.” Congratulations—you just implied retaliation.
3. Don’t be a sarcastic.
Sarcasm doesn’t translate well in legal records. That “👍” after a passive-aggressive rant? Not helping your credibility.
4. Don’t text while angry.
Write it in Notes. Rage type in a draft. Just don’t hit send. Seriously.
5. Don’t play legal amateur hour.
“You violated our decree and I’m filing a motion tomorrow.” Are you? Or are you just bluffing because she cancelled a soccer practice?
What to do instead:
- Use apps that timestamp everything.
- Be short, neutral, and direct: “I’ll pick him/her up at 4.”
- Assume every message will be read by a judge.
Golden Rule: Text like your parenting time depends on it—because it does.
Funny but true: The best text you can send? “OK.” It never ends up on the courtroom projector.
Want a communication plan that protects your time and reputation? Book a strategy session with The Radler Law Firm.